http://thinkprogress.org/health/2015/01/11/3610327/college-men-forcible-sex-study/?utm_source=takepart.com&utm_medium=referral&utm_campaign=pubexchange_module
Rape culture exists everywhere, regardless of the supposed "intent" of the offender. Rape culture to me includes the instances when men repeatedly push themselves on a woman because they are treating their sexual needs as the most important thing in the world.
I tell people all the time (although it's not very lady like and so I probably shouldn't) that I am just as horny as a man; if not more so. Yet, I allow my brain to think for me, not my private parts. It's incredibly unfair to say that because someone has a penis, one becomes justifiable in forcibly putting it in a hole. I want sex all the time, too; and I check people out when they are beautiful. But you don't see me running around, rubbing my vagina on everything.
When someone says "No", it means just that. It doesn't mean, "Try harder." It doesn't mean, "Only when I'm dressed slutty." And it definitely doesn't mean, "Yes". I am a little confused by the apparent disconnect. If I have the ability to control my sexual desires and urges, why can't a man do the same? Just because you may like my body does not mean you get to do anything about it.
I also want to make it clear that I know PLENTY of men who can indeed control their urges just like I can; they are polite, they don't expect sex just because they buy dinner or drinks, and they treat women as equals. It's frustrating that all men don't act this way, because these men that I know are wonderful, and I feel fortunate to have them in my life.
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Wow, I just wrote a very long response and got cut off by a stupid server. That's infuriating lol. So because I don't feel like typing that book again, here's the TL;DR version:
ReplyDeleteLack of respect for women begets a society where sexual impropriety is acceptable. Build households as partners, equal in responsibility, equal in upkeep, equal in power, and teach our children that no gender is any better than the other. That is an important first step. The belief that anyone deserves anything having to do with another person's body for any reason is disgusting, and that is something that needs to be taught from the beginning.